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1. Accept what is ... my daily mantra "it is what it is"!
There is only so much we can affect. What we cannot change, what we cannot influence no matter what, should not be a concern to us. This is what I notice with so many people, in that we focus and linger on things which we have no control over. Why worry about something that all the worrying in the world will not change? Why care about what other people think of us when we’re not even sure what it is they are actually thinking? Once you open the blinds to this fact, and start accepting what is that you cannot change, you automatically relieve yourself of a mountain of stress and anxiety. You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can always choose how you feel about it and what you do about it! Stop "should-ing" life has to go which way (as you wish it should be). If it has to be like this or like that...then be! Accept the feeling of not knowing exactly where you are going, and train yourself to love and appreciate this sensation of freedom.
2. Unties to Insensitive people.
People are extremely difficult to change. Throughout your lifetime people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. And don’t make any space in your heart to hate them. Simply walk away and let karma deal with the things they do, because any bit of time you spend on them will be wasted, and any bit of hate in your heart will only hurt you.
3. Stop Obsessing yourself with negative news..Not Worth It!
Try not to obsess over the negative news; or better yet..do like me! don't listen to bad news at all!! if you do, just learn from it and use your knowledge to work your way eagerly toward a brighter tomorrow. Life does get better and better when you choose to make it so!
4. Stop The need to keep everything the same.
Things change. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesn’t stop for anybody, life moves very fast. It rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds. It happens like this to people every day. It’s happening to someone right now! My life has been a crazy GPS, rerouting me constantly to the unplanned directions!
These changes come when you’re not asking for them and not expecting them, but they happen. So am I helpless? No! and No! These changes are going to come; you can’t help that. But it’s what you do afterwards that counts.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives; a seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. Accept it, adapt to it, let it be..things that meant for you, to stay with you, will come & stay..effortless, no matter what!
Don’t fight changes, let it go, begin the next chapter in your life. In my experience, changes always took me to a better & happier place in the end! and make me a stronger and a better person. Trust the Universe, it always know whats best for you!
5. Spend time in nature
We spend so much time confined in buildings of steel and concrete and bricks that we quickly forget where we come from. It is natural for us to be in nature, and this is why it feels so good and it is so peaceful when you take a walk in a park or bike on a trail in the forest. As I am typing this blog, I am looking out my window to this gigantic tree in front of my house. Watching its stillness, with the wind blowing through its branches calmly, it is a sight that not only inspires me, but that I find peace within it. I enjoy jogging & biking, one of the reasons is that it brings me closer to nature. It is something you just can’t experience in a car. If you feel overwhelmed, take a stroll outside where there are tons of trees and far from the city. Be there and just enjoy the sights, the sounds, and the peace. I don't do this everyday though..as I am a city girl! once in a while nature boost is my absolute must! to reset my brain.
6. Learn the power of a smile & laugh
Whenever you are laughing or smiling, something interesting happens. Not only does something happen on a chemical level to make you feel better, but it also stops all stress and negativity from entering your psyche. A simple smile can make such a difference. For example, the other day I mishandled a dish and it fell on the floor, breaking into pieces, creating a big mess. Now, I could have been angry with myself for being clumsy and thinking “here’s another reason why life sucks!”. But I did the opposite. I started to laugh and make fun of myself for not being able to hold on to that plate properly. As I cleaned up the mess, there was no bitterness or anger. As a matter of fact, I did it with a smile on my face…I did it with peace. So whenever you find yourself in a similar predicament, just think of the silver lining, and don’t be shy to poke fun at yourself. You will quickly realize that peace finds its way much more easily to you when you smile.
7. Think Outwardly
What I mean by this is that often time, we are so consumed within our own problems that we can no longer see the forest from the trees. Therefore, it helps to remind ourselves how big the world is. Take a moment and read up about some other countries, cultures, and the likes. Be aware that the world does not revolve around your problems. I find that when I hear about a tsunami or an earthquake killing hundreds of thousands of people on the other side of the world, my problems aren’t really “problems” anymore : ). Looking beyond ourselves is very important in finding peace and it leads me to my next point.
8. Meditate... is my therapy to quite my self talk, quite my mind..ssshhh-ing my brain
If you do not meditate yet, you are missing out on a very important activity that can change your life. Meditating for 15 minutes daily can have an enormous impact in all areas of your life. I usually do it before go to bed. It gives me a good sleep and a chance to be grateful, appreciate & thanking God & Universe for everything good that had happened to me all day that day and forgive what went wrong, and replace it with how I wanted to be...in my imaginary world.
If you have a lot on your mind and you feel like your thoughts are driving you crazy, meditation can help you find peace. We all have this little self talk, drunken hyper monkey in our head that if we feed this fussy monkey, it can bring us from positive to negative though, take you off to lala land that totally negative!. My quick mind eraser is, before go to bed I need to shut my hyper monkey up and go to my emptiness moment. I simply close everything, sit back, close my eyes, and clear my mind of every single thought. Focus on the emptiness and enjoy the feelings. Do this, you'll be surprised what a 15 minutes of meditation can do to turn things around for you. If you have trouble meditating, I would suggest getting a professional guide, which will help you get used to this level of peacefulness.
9. Care about others
You will never find peace by being self-consumed and only worrying about your own needs and wants. When you begin to genuinely care about other people, so much goodness comes right out. This only helps into solidifying your inner peace. It can be people close to you or pure strangers, but any act of kindness and goodwill eases your way towards peace. When I help friends in need, I stopped focusing on my so-called problems and realize that my life isn’t so bad after all. This rids my entire being of all the stress and feelings of overwhelm. There is great peace and wisdom in thinking and caring about other people, which we are blind to when we are too deep within our own selfish ways.
10. Never lose hope...believe that Everything will be OK, whatever happened was for my highest goodness. It always prove me right!
Hope is something you can never afford to lose. With hope you always have a path towards peace. Whenever we get too stressed out and overwhelmed within our own life, we forget that hope. We forget that the sun always shines after a rainy day, and that this is merely a bump in the road. I find immense peace in just knowing, deep within my heart, that everything will be OK. With hope, I know that whatever is seemingly terrible, is only temporary and that soon enough, things will be just fine. This lifts off all of that negativity from my entire being, and I feel better pretty much instantly.
11. Embrace your beliefs
I am not one to pick or favor one belief system over another, so whatever it is that you believe in, embrace it with your entire being. Be within your faith 100% and peace will find its way into your heart. Now, we may all disagree on each other’s beliefs but one thing we must all agree on is that having a solid, healthy faith is crucial in founding a proper conscience that helps into guiding us towards peace and wisdom. There is a reason why research has shown that people that are deeply devoted to their faith have a higher life expectancy and are less likely to have diseases. This is because they experience more inner peace, which is important if you want to increase the quality of your life.
12. Live in the present moment
Most of the time, what we worry about is relating to something either in the past, or something that hasn’t happened. Living in the present moment erases all such thoughts. Why worry about something in the past that we cannot ever change? (see point #1, accept what is). Why worry about something that we are not even sure will happen or not? This is why in the present moment, you find true inner peace. In the present moment, there are no problems and no concerns. There is only stillness, and it is within that stillness that you can uncover peace. I used to be a person that worried all the time, to the point where I had trouble sleeping. Once I learned to live in the present moment, I stopped thinking about the past and any potential future, and just worried about being ever-present in each and every moment. My life is definitely more peaceful since then!